This is a magical time of year to really do some work on what we believe in.
Join me on this episode where I will share some of my favorite Christmas memories and Christmas traditions.
•What a belief is
•How you can grow your belief
And lastly, if you want to create goodness in your future…
•The one thing you should believe in even more
It’s just so fun to believe.
0:00 Hey, what’s up everyone? It’s Jennie, the LDS mission coach and you’re listening to the LDS mission Podcast, episode number 28 belief work the Christmas edition.
0:12 I’m Jennie, the LDS mission coach. And whether you’re preparing to serve a mission, currently serving a returned missionary or a missionary mama like me, I created this podcast just for you. Are you searching for epic confidence? Ready to love yourself and to learn the how of doing hard things? Then let’s go. I will help you step powerfully into your potential and never question your purpose. Again. It’s time to embrace yourself. Embrace your mission, embrace your life, and embrace what’s next.
0:51 Hey, everyone, Merry Christmas, today’s Christmas Eve, can you believe we’re here. I hope that if you’re with your family, that you get to hang out, and that you have lots of fun, I hope that if you’re not with your family, that you have a lot of good friends or companions, or Ward leaders who are taking really good care of you this Christmas season, I want to send you all of my best Christmas wishes. I love this time of year where we get to think about our Savior, and really focus on his birth, and on his life. And on his return. I feel so blessed to be able to do the work that I’m doing in the world where I am helping missionaries become failproof on the mission, and to completely never question their purpose again when they get home.
1:41 And if you’re feeling so inclined to give me a Christmas present, and you don’t have to, but if you feel so inclined, what I would really love is to just get the word out to more people about the work that I do in the world for missionaries. So if you could, could you just share this podcast, with someone who’s preparing for their mission, or someone who’s coming home from their mission, or just follow me on social media.
2:09 This way, we can help more of you have the mental and emotional tools that you need to thrive no matter which part of the mission experience that you’re in. And that is what I’m passionate about. So take a screenshot of the podcast and share it or just click share if you’re on iTunes, and share it to your story. Tag me so that I can thank you. It would be so appreciated. And that is all I want for Christmas is to help more of you. So thank you for sharing.
2:40 Today, we’re going to talk about belief work. And I called it Christmas edition because it’s just kind of what’s been on my mind. Like many of you, we have an elf on the shelf and his name is Mr. Peeps. And he doesn’t he’s not tiny like some of the elves that are in the stores right now. A friend of mine made him for us and He’s super cute kind of has these long fabric legs and just super cute bells on his toes. Anyway, we love Mr. peeps at our house. And the idea is that he kind of looks around and keeps track of the good things that you’re doing. And every night Mr. Peeps moves he moves from high places to low places. And all over the house. Well, mostly he stays in the family room and kitchen area, sometimes in the entryway but he’s kind of downstairs doing what he does keeping an eye on things to make sure everyone’s behaving. Well, my daughter is all in on Mr. Peeps. She’s 10 She’s in fourth grade. And every day she comes down and is so excited to see where Mr. Peep says she is full in on believing in Mr. Papes hand Santa Claus too, by the way. I wanted to read you a little letter that she wrote to Mr. Pipes and put in her stocking and hopes that he would see it. She said Dear Mr. Peeps, thank you so much for everything you do, and for making me feel joy every morning. Isn’t that the cutest thing?
4:30 My daughter fully believes in Mr. peeps and in Santa Claus. And so I’ve just been thinking about this. What would it be like if all of us had that same belief and that same wonder and awe and could experience that same amount of joy? First of all, in maybe things outside of us But also, that same kind of belief in ourselves. There’s a movie called Miracle on 34th Street that I love to watch this time of year. And one that most of you are probably familiar with, or some of the newer versions of that. But my favorite actually is the original one, where it’s in black and white, I think it was released in 1947, Natalie Wood plays the little girl. And I just love this version of it. I try to watch it every Christmas. But there’s one point at the end of the movie where the little girl is hoping for something and she is wanting kind of a miracle in her life. And they’re driving through this neighborhood. And she’s hoping that her mom and the sky will get together, and that they’ll have this house and that they’ll live happily ever after. And what she says is they’re driving along, and I can see it now as she’s saying, I believe, I believe it’s silly, but I believe. And this really stuck out to me because we believe things. And my daughter believes in Mr. peeps and Santa Claus. But is it silly to believe? I don’t think so. Because when we believe when we have thoughts that create hope, and peace and love, it’s not silly at all. My daughter, when she believes feels joy. And so I want to talk about that today. Sometimes we have belief in other things like Jesus Christ or our religious beliefs.
6:48 But I also want to talk about how we can have more belief in ourselves. The first thing I want to do is talk about what beliefs are. And the definition that I have for a belief is simply a thought that you’ve been thinking over and over and over again. It’s sort of like a thought that we’ve been thinking for so long that it starts to feel true to us. The first time you think a thought, what happens is a little synapse is created a little pathway in our brain. And when we think that thought again, it becomes more defined. And again, and it becomes more defined and more defined and more defined. I sort of think of like, if we were blazing a hiking trail, the first time we traveled over that trail is going to be kind of treacherous. But at least we’ve started point A to point B, when we blaze that trail again, it’s going to become more defined, we’re going to clear out some shrubbery, we’re going to clear out some rocks, we’re going to cut down some maybe logs that have fallen over and before long in our brains, that hiking trail becomes a utility trail. And that utility trail then becomes paved. And then that paved becomes a highway and that highway becomes a six lane freeway eventually. And this is what happens with our beliefs. We’ve been thinking those things for so long that they feel like facts. Now many of the things that we have beliefs about serve us really well and create emotions that drive us to take action that is useful and beneficial in our lives.
8:37 Like our beliefs about Jesus Christ, our beliefs about the plan of salvation, and about the Book of Mormon, these beliefs, our Gospel believes service really, really well. And so we don’t want to get rid of those beliefs. But sometimes we have a limiting belief. It’s a belief that even though it’s been created in our brain, and now it’s a six lane highway, maybe doesn’t serve us very well. So I have a couple that I want to share with you. I was talking to one person this week, one of my clients who said I’m just a people pleaser. Now that is just a thought that he has it’s just a sentence his brain offers him but it’s the brain has offered him that sentence so many times that it just feels true. Or one that I’ve been working on for quite some time is that I’m weak. My brains like See, that’s why you can’t do that you’re weak.
9:40 At some point I thought that thought the first time and then that pathway in my brain has become so engrained and so deep and such a wide freeway that it’s hard to believe anything else. In fact, we start to think that that thought I’m weak is just is a true thought. The reason it’s good to know this is because even these limiting beliefs are also just thoughts. And we can retrain our brain and choose to think and believe something different if we want to maybe something that we want to believe that serves us better. I thought of this scripture in Mark 923, and it’s the dad that comes with his son, who is thrashing and foaming at the mouth. And Jesus says to him in verse 23, if thou canst believe, all things are possible to him that believeth. And straightway the father of the child cried out and said, with tears, Lord, I believe, help thou my unbelief. Now, this is so powerful, because he believed he had those thoughts that felt like facts to him, that Christ was the Savior, and that he could do all things, and that he could heal his son. And yet, he didn’t quite believe in himself, that he had enough faith. To me, the Scripture means that he had belief in the Lord, but didn’t have the belief in himself, that his faith was enough for that healing to take place.
11:44 Our thoughts, right, these beliefs that we’ve been thinking for so long, we’ll create a feeling and then drive a set of actions, and then create a result. So how do we know if the thought that we have is a useful thought or a useful belief? We know by the fruits of it, we know by the result of it, we know by how we feel. One of the things I did recently, which was so cool, and empowering and enlightening to me, is I was reading Alma 32. And it’s the chapter that talks all about faith. And normally, we think of this chapter in the Book of Mormon in the context of either believing Christ or building our faith in Christ, sometimes we think of it in the terms of gaining a testimony. But this last time that I read it, I kind of considered if this scripture could also be applied, this set of scriptures could also be applied to belief in my self.
13:03 Because here’s what’s true, you guys, if we don’t believe in us, we can’t make stuff in our lives happen. We have to think the thing first, then have a feeling then that drives a set of actions. Think about if we wanted to plant a garden, if we didn’t believe that we were going to get something at the end of that garden, would we even plant it? And the answer is no. So just as important as believing in Jesus Christ, and believing in the plan of salvation, and believing the Book of Mormon, is this belief in ourselves, if we want to create something amazing in our lives, and so I want to read some of this Alma 32, to you. And I’m going to insert a couple of different words that will maybe give you some insight, and some of the same insight that I had, as I was thinking about belief in myself. And it goes like this, but be hold if you will awake and arouse your faculties even to an experiment upon my words and exercise a particle of faith, gay, even if you can, no more than desire to believe. Let this desire work in you. And I love that so much as I think some of us I use my clients say so many times, I want to believe in myself. I want to believe that I’m good enough. I want to believe that I have what it takes. And it says right here, even if you can no more than desire to believe. Let this desire work in you. Even until you believe in a manner that you can give place for a portion of my words. I know that Heavenly Father in Jesus Christ believe in us, I know this. So can we give a place for a portion of that truth?
14:59 In verse 20, It says, now we will compare the word unto a seed. And I kind of thought of this as like the seed is our belief in ourselves. And it says, now if we can give place to that seed, that that seed may be planted in your heart. And I love this because it kind of goes back to this desire, that desire in our hearts, that we want to believe in ourselves. And it says that if you do not cast it out by your unbelief, like can we have a belief in ourselves the same way that my daughter has that belief? In Santa Claus and Mr. Peeps can we have that childlike belief and faith, not only in Jesus Christ and his ability to make us more than we are, but have that belief in ourselves. So if we want to create something amazing in the future, we’ve got to nourish the seed. So in verse 41, it says, but if he will nourish your belief, it says word, but we’re going to substitute the word belief, if you will nourish your self belief, yeah, nourish that seed as it begins to grow, by your faith and great diligence, and with patience, looking forward, to the fruit thereof, it shall take root, and behold, it shall be a tree springing up unto ever lasting life.
16:26 Isn’t that beautiful? Like we just got a desire to believe and let that desire work in us. And then we’ve got to look to the future, with patients and with diligence, believing in ourselves. And then I love this so much at the end, and because of your diligence, and your faith, and your patience, in nourishing it, that that belief may take root and you be hauled by in by II shall pluck the fruit there of which is most precious, which is sweet, above all, that is sweet. And I know that we usually say that this is talking about the atonement, and that we’re partaking of Christ’s Atonement and his love for us. But I love this idea that it’s also precious. And we also create such miraculous and amazing things in our lives, when we believe in ourself, as well. It says, When you feast upon this fruit, you are filled any hunger not, and neither shall ye thirst, when you have that belief in yourself coupled and hand in hand with your belief in Jesus Christ, you don’t need anything else, really hear filled. And then in verse 43, it says, Then my brother, and you shall reap the rewards of your faith, and your belief and your diligence, and your patience and your long suffering, waiting for the tree to bring forth fruit unto you. So next time you read Alma, 32, just play with this idea that maybe it’s not just talking about our belief in our testimony, or our belief in Jesus Christ, but that maybe it’s talking about our belief in ourselves, as well.
18:17 We are creators, I firmly believe that we are creators, just like our Heavenly Father in Jesus Christ. But we can’t create something in the future that we don’t believe in first, or that we don’t have thoughts about first, if we want to create a garden, or if we want to create a baptism, or if we want to create a webinar, or if we want to create a party, we’ve got to believe that we’re capable of that first. Now, I want to give a word of warning here, we’re not always going to believe in ourselves, really, we’ve got that lower brain that really likes to go back to that well worn six lane highway. It’s much easier for our brain. Like, if I’m not on to my brain, it wants to take the past path of least resistance for sure. It’s just easier. It’s a way our brain conserves energy. But I love the idea that I can always believe whatever I want to. Sometimes I’d like to believe things for myself that I don’t even necessarily have the right to believe. Like my daughter, she believes that this fabric and legs and bells, and maybe some sand in the inside of the body is alive and knows her and loves her. And that’s a beautiful thing because for her, it creates joy. I want to share this quote with you from Thomas S Monson. Don’t limit yourself. And don’t let others convince you that you are limited in what you can do. Believe in yourself, and then live so as to reach your possibilities. Again, your brain don’t want to go to the past. But let’s look to the future towards our possibility. Then he says, you can achieve what you believe you can. So trust and believe and have faith. Thomas S. Monson. I want to share this story about my grandpa and grandmas Swenson, who are both passed away. Now my grandma Swenson passed away this last year. And so her story has really been on my mind. And I can feel myself just getting emotional just thinking about her and this story that we heard all of our growing up years. And it’s what we call the story of the lost wallet and my family. And years ago, my dad’s brother was young and ended up having some seizures and ended up having to be in the hospital for quite some time.
21:17 And during that time, they just didn’t have very much money. My grandma was a teacher, she taught third grade for several years. And my grandpa, he was the mayor of Amman, Idaho. He also, you know, did what he could in teaching at Utah State and some other things. But during this particular time, they were very low on money. And the story goes like this is that they were walking along down the streets of Idaho Falls. And as they were coming along, they were basically window shopping, because they knew that they would not be able to afford Christmas. For their four young children at home. They hadn’t gotten anything. They didn’t have the money for the food on the table. They didn’t have money for a tree, they didn’t have money to buy gifts. And as they were walking along in the snow, and feeling kind of this melancholy feeling. My grandpa kicked up a wallet. And inside the wallet, there was a large amount of cash. And what my grandpa and grandma decided to do at that time, was to dig through the wallet a little bit more and see if they could figure out who this wallet belong to. Now they could have taken that money and just used it to buy gifts for their children, or anything, even a turkey for dinner. And instead they dug through that wallet and they had seen that there was a pawn card in there and it had a phone number on it for a pawnshop. So they put it together that probably this person needed this money too. So they went to the pawn shop. And my grandpa said the owner, Hey, I found this wallet. Can you please let me know who this person is that took out this money so I can return this wallet to him and the pawn shop owner was a little bit reluctant. He said, No, I just I don’t think I can do that. And my grandpa said no, please. i He I know that he probably really needs this money right now. And finally, the owner of that shop agreed. And he gave my grandpa the address. And my grandpa went out kind of out in the boondocks a little bit and drove out there in the snow and saw this little trailer home and went up and knocked on the door. And as soon as he opened the door with that wallet, the man who opened the door just started weeping. And my grandpa gave that wallet back to this man.
24:11 So after that, my grandpa went and met up with my grandma Swenson knowing that they done the right thing but also feeling really disheartened knowing that they couldn’t give their kids really anything for Christmas. Not even really a Christmas dinner. So that night on Christmas Eve, they were sitting around the fireplace, and all of a sudden I can hear my grandma telling the story. Like it was yesterday, she says and then we heard a bang on the door. We heard prancing, we heard hooves on the roof, and a hohoho and one of our Kids ran to the door and opened it. And I can hear my grandma’s saying now. And there was Santa Claus. Really, she would say, there was Santa Claus. And Santa brought in a tree and brought in a turkey and brought him presents. And wish them a merry Christmas. And then headed out on his way. And I can even hear my grandma’s saying it now. You can tell me that there’s no Santa Claus.
25:38 But I know different. Because I’ve seen him. My grandma believes just like Ruby. And really, just like me. One of my favorite albums that I’ve been listening to, since I was a kid is actually a Dolly Parton and Kenny Rogers Christmas album. And one of the songs is I believe in Santa Claus. Part of the words go like this, I believe in miracles, I believe in magic to oh, I believe in Santa Claus. And I believe in you. This is me, Jennie, the LDS mission coach. Wishing you the merriest Christmas and I want you to know that I believe in miracles, too. I believe in Jesus Christ. And in the magic of this season, I believe in Santa Claus. And I also believe in you, sending you all of my love this Christmas Eve. We’ll talk to you again next week. Take care.
26:57 Thank you so much for listening to the podcast today. If you want to learn more about the mental and emotional tools I teach young adults so they can overcome worrying anxiety serve the successful missions they’ve always dreamed of, and navigate their post mission experience with confidence. Go to Jennie dildine.com. Or just come hang out with me on Instagram at Jennie dot, the LDS mission coach. And until then, remember, no matter which part of the mission experience that you are involved in, Jennie (, the LDS mission coach is thinking about you every single day.