77. People Pleasing

If you live for people’s acceptance, you will lose YOURSELF from their rejection. It’s time to stop worrying about what others will think and start being authentic to yourself. Let’s start showing up as our 100% selves 100% of the time.

Listen in to learn:

– How to be on your own side

– The why behind people pleasing

– How to be okay with being your complete self. 

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0:00 Hey, what’s up everyone, it’s Jennie Dildine, the LDS mission coach and you’re listening to the LDS mission Podcast, episode number 77. People pleasing. I’m Jennie, the LDS mission coach. And whether you’re preparing to serve a mission, currently serving a returned missionary or a missionary mama like me, I created this podcast just for you. Are you searching for epic confidence? Ready to love yourself and to learn the how of doing hard things? Then let’s go. I will help you step powerfully into your potential and never question your purpose. Again. It’s time to embrace yourself. Embrace your mission, embrace your life, and embrace what’s next. Hey, how is everybody doing? How is your December going? I know, here at the dill dine household. There’s a few things going on. We’ve got recitals, we’ve got concerts, we’ve got parties, family parties, or parties, releases at parties, we feels like something. We have something almost every day feels like in the next couple of weeks. But it’s all good. I really am just trying to be like in this place like, this is how I want it. This is I wouldn’t want it any other way. Try not to get overwhelmed with all of the things that this time of year brings piano recitals, dance recitals, all that good stuff. Along with just like the things that you want to do for other people, so it’s all good, I hope your December is going smoothly, I hope that you are finding moments to let this awesome time of year sort of land and fill you up, I hope you are finding time to reflect on not only how awesome this time of year is because we get to think about our Savior and what he’s done for us and what he has made possible for us. But also, I had this moment, yesterday, actually in my daughter’s Elementary School Christmas concert where I was like, You know what, this is an amazing time of year. And also people are amazing. So I hope you’re also taking a moment to be grateful for you during this time of year. Because all of the like hope and peace that we feel comes from our Savior. But all of these like amazing experiences and music, concerts like that I get to sing in and that my kids are singing in or piano recitals are all due to like hours and hours and hours of people showing up over and over and over again. And so give yourself a little credit for showing up this month all and all of the ways and the large. And all of this small ways. I feel like this topic today of people pleasing is pretty prominent maybe this time of year. But actually what I’ve seen is it’s pretty prominent in general. But before I want to jump into that, I want to remind you, and I don’t even know if you know this or not, but I have a an amazing idea for you to give to your soon to be missionary, I actually have a kind of DIY, do it yourself course for preparing missionaries. Did you know this is called mental mission prep. 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If you are thinking that would be an amazing gift to give your preparing missionary, either a loved one or a family member or something like that, go to Jennie dildine.com, forward slash preparing dash, like a hyphen, missionaries. That’s where you go to find out all about my mental mission prep course. So I hope that you will take advantage of that. We need more preparing missionaries with mental and emotional tools. Okay, back to people pleasing. I actually, as often is the case when I’m preparing a podcast, I actually noticed myself wanting to go into people pleasing mode. As I prepared the outline for this podcast, I’m like, I want everyone to like it, I want everyone to be able to get lots of stuff out of it. So instead of like staying there in sort of people pleasing mode, what I decided to do was just to like brainstorm and have a complete brain dump about all of the things I think about people pleasing some of the concepts that I’ve sort of come up with maybe some concepts you’ve heard of before. And I want to be able to dive into this because it is something that I’m seeing a lot, right with just us as humans in general, but also with missionaries. And with returned missionaries as well. So one of the things I started to notice as I kind of put this podcast together was that it’s people pleasing is almost like a sister or a cousin to perfectionism. Often, if you see someone sort of in perfectionistic tendencies, you will also see them in people pleasing tendencies. So if you’re interested in learning more about like the sister podcast to this, which would be breaking free from perfectionism, that would be maybe something interesting for you to listen to. It’s episode 65. I think that would be like a good companion. Listen with this one, which is people pleasing. What I started to notice is that perfectionism sort of believes that our emotions are created on the outcome of something. So the outcome that we create, like if we get a good grade, then we’re going to feel a certain way, if we do things the right way, then we’re going to feel a certain way.

8:54 People pleasing on the other hand, our brain starts to believe that our that other people’s thoughts, feelings and actions and outcomes create our emotions. Okay, so that is what we are going to dive into today. Perfectionism as we think that the outcome that we see creates our emotion, people pleasing is that we think other people’s thoughts and feelings and actions or outcomes create our emotions. So what tends to happen with people pleasing is we tend to manipulate ourselves in a way that maybe starts to feel a little bit inauthentic to who we actually are. And what’s fascinating about this is our brain actually believes that we have the ability to control how someone feels. So picture if we if our brain really believes like we can control whether someone likes us or not. We can get into this. Like people pleasing. mode is what I want to call it today, we start to do things that we don’t want to do, okay at our own expense. So, a little bit later, we’re going to talk about the difference between sacrifice and people pleasing. But just sort of know that people pleasing when we’re in that sort of a mindset or mode, often we do things for people, but there’s sort of a net negative on us. Okay. A couple of things that we’re going to talk about today, we’re going to talk about what is people pleasing, we’ve already sort of already started to dive into that. But number two, we’re going to talk about why we people please number three, we’re going to talk about signs that we might be in people pleasing mode, the difference between unconditional love or sacrifice and people pleasing the problem with people pleasing, and then I’m going to offer you a couple of like, baby steps to get back to what maybe feels more authentic to you and what feels more true to you. I have a little word of warning I’m gonna give you at the end Plus, we’re going to talk a little bit about what’s on the other side of people pleasing, like what’s in store for you if you can manage your, your desire to sort of be in people pleasing mode. So the first thing I want to say before we jump into any of those things is it is not useful for us to label ourselves as a people pleaser. And like I said, at the beginning, I hear these go hand in hand so much like I’m a perfectionist and a people pleaser. It’s just not useful to think of yourself that way as if it is just the way it is, if that’s just who you are. When we think about it that way, I’m just a people pleaser, then we feel kind of powerless to it, we feel almost like we don’t have the ability or the influence, or the agency even to change that at all. So we sort of start to see it as if it’s just our identity identity. That’s just who I am. I have blue eyes, I have brown hair, and I’m a people pleaser, okay. But instead of thinking of it that way, which is the way your brain likes to default to it, right, and that’s okay. But instead of thinking of it, like I’m just a people pleaser, maybe consider thinking about it like this, that I’m in people pleasing mode. That’s kind of how I’m gonna refer to it today. People pleasing is something that we do. It’s one of the actions that we take, it’s not something that we are. The good news about this is that we change what we do all the time. And so sometimes we might be sort of in a people pleasing mode, where we’re doing a lot of things people pleasing a lot. And sometimes we won’t, another, neither is right or wrong or bad. And we’re going to talk about why but it’s all okay. And it’s not just who we are, we get to decide how we want to show up, it’s totally possible for you to choose a people pleasing mode, or to not choose a people pleasing mode. So that’s the first thing I want to say, quit referring to yourself as a people pleaser. Okay. Secondly, let’s talk about what is people pleasing. And we’ve already kind of talked about it a little bit, but let’s just say kind of more specifically, this is a definition I came up with, I’m sure there are lots of ways to think about this. But what I kind of put in my notes here is that it’s controlling or changing ourselves, and our behavior in order to control or change someone else’s emotions or behavior. So basically, it’s like us changing so that we can have someone else show up differently. Think about it. Like, if I just act a certain way, or if I just show up this certain way, then someone will like me, then someone will pay attention to me, then someone will, you know, validate me or whatever it is, right. So why do we do? Why do we do this? Why do we get into people pleasing mode? One of the things is that we start to care more about what other people think, than what we think ourselves now. We do this actually pretty naturally. And we come by it pretty honestly, if you think about the way most of us were raised before our brains were even developed, we believed we really did believe that we had the ability to make our parents, teachers, maybe our leaders, happy or sad, based on how we were showing up. So like, even from a young age, if we were like, Oh my gosh, mom or dad, I got an 100% on this test, and our parents would mirror that emotion back to us, and be like, good job. That’s amazing. I’m so proud of you. And so we sort of got in this pattern, and our brain started to wire the fact that we do have the ability to make someone feel happy or sad. And all of that is reinforced, like, with the way like our society works with like getting promotions, rewards, grades, accolades, fame, all of that the more people like us, the better we are. So it comes really naturally and honestly, to all of us. And it’s, it’s fine that we’re sort of wired that way. So the other reason that we people, please, is because it sometimes works, right? Think about the kid in class, when elementary school even thought of this term in such a long time, but it just kind of came to me the kid that was the brown noser. Right, like, I don’t know what that term actually even means. Maybe I don’t want to know now that I’ve been thinking about it. But think about that kid who always was like, people pleasing. They usually like got the parts in the school play, or maybe they were shown more favor, you know, in front of the class or something like that. And so that’s what I kind of pointing out here is that sometimes people pleasing actually works. And so that’s another reason that we might get into people pleasing mode is if that kid in that classroom continues to see oh, if I show up this way, which may or may not be authentic to who I am, then they start to see like, I do have the ability to create this experience for my teacher, I do have this ability to, you know, create someone else’s emotions, and then by in turn creating a better experience for me.

17:29 The other reason that we people, please is, this idea of like, if you think of our primitive lower brain that I talk about a lot on this podcast, is that our brains are actually sort of that part of our brain is sort of primitive and tribal. And so if you think about like, a tribe, and sort of, we have, like, still, this part of our brain that wants to be included in a tribe wants to connect with the tribe, because that actually meant that we were safe, we’d be protected, we would have food we’d be able to survive. Notice, if we got kicked out of a tribe, then we that actually meant like actual death. So you can see how this part of our brain sort of always has to be on the lookout for like, do these people like me? Do I fit in here? Is there any reason at all that I would maybe be kicked out of this tribe? So notice, it’s also sort of primitive and primal part of us. So all of these considered, you can see why quite frequently if we’re not like, onto ourselves that we could get into a people pleasing mode. And it’s totally fine. And we’re going to talk about all of the things that we could do to kind of break ourselves out of that if we don’t want to people please at all. Okay? Or at least people, please less. Okay, so here are some signs that you might be in a people pleasing mode. When you number one, when you don’t say no. When you really want to say no. So, meaning, I guess I could have phrased that better. But like we say yes to something, even though we don’t really want to, the thing that comes to mind is like when someone says, Hey, Jenny, will you make a bunch of cookies for the Christmas bake sale at the concert? And I’m like, Yeah, but I don’t really want to. Okay, that would be one side. So also, while I’m kind of listing these, go ahead and just see if you notice any of these kind of instances coming up in your own life, okay, maybe we’re sacrificing our own well being or putting our needs last. I actually did this for quite some time in my like, my role as a mom. I did, I was like, I’m the lowest on the totem pole. I sacrifice for everybody but never really take care of myself. So notice if you do that, like in your Mission District or in your apartment or even, you know, with your roommates or even with your family, okay? Also, maybe another sign would be that you seek approval or validation from others. So it’s sort of this idea that you don’t allow yourself to like yourself, unless you have like some kind of external validation or approval. Or even like, you don’t allow yourself to believe you’re doing a good job at work, unless your boss is like you’re doing a good job at work, right? So here might be another sign is if you’re deferring your opinion about something based on who you are with. So maybe I can’t even think of a good example, but like maybe your opinion on I don’t know, my daughter, she’s in high school. So it’s kind of always a thing about like, who like, Is Taylor Swift, cool or not? Right? Or is are these? Should we wear Converse? Or should we wear vans or whatever. And that’s a really simple thing. It could probably be your opinions about like politics or your, you know, different ideas you have about faith and God and stuff like that. Do you differ your opinion, based on who you’re with, instead of being able to just be able to sort of believe in yourself and, and share what you really think like, whether you like Taylor Swift or not, I happen to like Taylor Swift quite a lot. But I’m also like, not afraid, see what I mean, to just share that with whoever, whether they like her or not. One another way might be if you’re waiting to make a decision about a relationship, until after you hear how the other person feels. So this kind of goes back to validation. But I was working with a client a few weeks ago, that was like, I think I really liked this girl, but I can’t be certain until I find out that she likes me. And I was like, why just decide that you like her. You could just decide or decide that you like or decide that you don’t, and then wait to see what she has to say. Another sign might be that if you’re afraid that people won’t like the real you sort of like if you feel like sometimes you’re an imposter like that imposter syndrome. Another sign might be like, if you just felt kind of emotionally exhausted or depleted, because you’re not like meeting your own needs, you’re expecting other people to meet those needs. You might start to believe that other people know better than you. Like if, if I’m on a call with a client, let’s say and the client just says, Well, you know, best. And I usually push back and say no, I I actually don’t, you know best. Or if I’m talking to one of my kids even. And they’re like, Well, Mom, you just know what’s best. You know, that could be a sign not necessarily that it is but that you’re in people pleasing mode instead of just trusting what you think is best. One I kind of noticed this week too, with one of my clients was when we start to want to, quote unquote, help people, even though that person has requested that you not give them help, or that they don’t want help. This is kind of people pleasing. Meaning, we think that we can feel good about ourselves when we’re doing something for someone, and then we continue to do that thing, because we think it’s what they want, but really secretly, it just makes us feel good. So that could be a sign you’re on people pleasing. Um, another sign you might be in people pleasing is that you take ownership of the experience that other people are having. It’s sort of like, if my roommates having a bad day, that’s my fault. If my friends are struggling, that’s my fault. If my companion is anxious. That’s my fault. Like I should be better, I should be a better companion. If my boss is frustrated, that’s my fault. Okay. And then here’s just one other little sneaky one that I want to point out to you. So we might be in people pleasing if we’re just like, I just want everyone to be happy. It sounds awesome, right? But it’s also not realistic. We can kind of step out at people pleasing when we realize everyone just gets to feel how they want to feel. Okay, so the difference between unconditional love or sacrifice and people pleasing. The truth is sometimes we might not want to do something like maybe when it comes back to that bake sale. Maybe I’d be like, You know what? I actually Want to bake those cookies? I mean, I don’t want to, I don’t really love baking cookies, or I don’t have time to bake the cookies, but I’m going to the difference between that and people pleasing, let me tell you is that it’s gonna feel different. So if I say yes, I want to make the cookies, I’m willing to make the cookies for the bake sale, it will come from a place of love. It won’t be I won’t feel resentful. I won’t feel like any obligation. I won’t feel disgruntled about any of it. Because I will have decided intentionally, that this is something I want and that I’m willing to do in the name of love. Okay. people pleasing on the other hand would be like, I am just saying this because I want to control how you perceive me, instead of coming from the inside and being like, Is this something I actually want to do? And I’m willing to do. So it’s kind of a fine line. Can you see it though? It’s like, it’s not like I really want to, but I will, which actually means I want to coming from a place of love. So it’s important to kind of be honest with yourself, too. If you’ve crossed that line, to where you’re just doing it, to sort of manage the way other people see you, or maybe even manage the way that you’re seeing yourself. Like, if I do this, then I’m a good person. If I could get the big sale, then I’m a good person. Versus huh. It’s not my favorite. But I’m willing, I’m willing to do that. Like, sounds so ridiculous. But the thought I just had was like changing a dirty diaper. Like, do I want to change a dirty diaper when I have babies? Not maybe my favorite thing to do, but I want to and I’m willing to. Okay, so that comes from a place of love. All right. The problem with people pleasing, and why it doesn’t work. The problem with people pleasing as we start to lose track of who we are, and what we actually want what we want. Because we’re so busy trying to manage other people and their emotions, and the way they think and feel. We forget to pay attention to how we think and feel.

27:33 One of the other problems is that when we’re people pleasing, we give our ability to feel good to someone else. So if so and so shows up in this way, I’ll feel good about myself. If they don’t show up in this way, I don’t feel good about myself. It’s just a really hard way to live, because no one is going to always 100% of the time, show up the way that we want them to. They’re human to just like you. Another problem with people pleasing, and being in people pleasing mode is that it’s not super honest. People will get to know if you’re in people pleasing mode, they’ll get to know a version of you. That’s not actually you. If we’re just always like yeah, I’ll do that even though we don’t want to then they they get to know a version or if you’re like you I like Taylor Swift even though you don’t. Someone is getting to know a version of you. That’s not you. One of my teachers Brooke Castillo, who created the Life Coach School where I got certified. She says it really really strongly actually she says that people pleasers are liars. Kind of puts like it in a new perspective, right when everyone says Are you honest with your fellow man? I mean, that’s interesting. I think that’s one of the temple recommend questions, right? Are you honest in your dealings? Now, I’m not saying like we should always be like brutally honest to hurt someone’s feelings. But I do think it’s pretty important for us to be honest and authentic and true to ourselves, instead of being in people pleasing mode. So let’s talk about some of these little small steps or baby steps that you can take to practice staying in who you authentically are, to break free out of people pleasing mode, and to just show up more honestly and authentically as you the first thing would be to ask yourself simple questions about what you want. So if you’ve been in people pleasing for a while, if you’ve been in that mode for a while You might not even know what you want. Hey, if you’ve been managing, like your husband’s emotions, if your brain tells you, you gotta be in charge of his emotions, and you gotta be in charge of your kids emotions, you got to be in charge of your companions, emotions, you get, your brain kind of tells you, if you’re in charge of all those people’s emotions, which doesn’t work, by the way, they actually get to be in charge of their emotions. We might not even know what we want. So just start small by asking yourself simple questions like, What do I want to eat for lunch? Or like, if you’re newly married? What? Like, your husband says, let’s, let’s go out to eat? What do you want to eat? Instead of being like, I don’t know, you just decide, challenge yourself a little bit to be like, go inside and be like, What do I want? What do I actually want? And then share that with him. Okay, so that can be one way or like, even what do I want to wear today? Or, what do I want to do after work? Or how do I want to approach this lesson? On the mission? Just start asking yourself, instead of like, how should I or how to so and so think I should approach to this lesson on the mission? Just ask yourself, How do I want to do this? Then another, like, kind of fun follow up question for you is, why do I want to do this? And then ask yourself, Is this because I actually want this? Or because I want to make someone else feel a certain way. And it’s okay, if you do if you want to, like create an experience for your husband, if like, he’s, you’re newly married, and your husband says like, you say, actually, I think I want Chinese and then husband is like, Oh, I don’t know, I was sort of thinking I wanted Mexican. It’s totally fine. If you want to be like, Yeah, that’s great. Let’s go have Mexican, I feel fine with that. But just be kind of onto yourself. Are we saying Oh, yeah, that’s fine, let’s go have Mexican, because we’ve actually decided we’re okay with wanting Mexican to, or because we want to people please. And think we have control over husband’s emotions. Okay. I don’t usually talk about young marrieds on here. But maybe some of you listening aren’t young marrieds, like been in college and listening for a while. But So there’s an example for you. Just be honest with yourself. What your reasoning is, am I trying to control their emotions? Or is this what I actually want? Another little baby step or practice you can try is to start to understand that when people are upset, this is about them. So if your boss is upset, if your companion is upset, if your roommate is upset, that’s about them. Okay, that only tells us about them and what’s going on for them. But what’s also true is that when people like love you and think you’re the best thing on the planet, and that you’re doing an amazing job when you get the grade or whatever, that’s also not about you. One of my favorite things, even when people like send me an email and are say, like, oh my gosh, Jenny, this is just like changing my mission and changing my life and all of that. Like, I sort of know, that’s about them. They’re the ones who’ve made those shifts, that they’re the ones who are changing the way they’re thinking and feeling. And the trouble is, is when we make the good stuff mean, about us, like mean things about us like oh, yeah, now I’m validated. Then we also have to sort of include the tough stuff. And so many times one of my favorite thoughts is like, Oh, this isn’t even about me. Alright. So another thing you can kind of remember is a practice is this sentence. I’m not for everybody. I’m not like, I get all kinds of interesting comments on my Facebook ads. I’m not supposed to be for everybody. Everybody is not supposed to like me. I tried to really fight kind of that tribal part of me that like, everyone in this tribe has to like you. I just fight back with like, no, if I like me, doesn’t matter if anyone else likes me. I actually do think some people like me, but I don’t believe that everyone has to like me. Um, a couple more things here. Whatever you want someone else to say to you, you say to you, if you want your girlfriend to say Like, you’re the most amazing boyfriend, like you’re the most amazing friend, you gotta say that to you. First, I am the most amazing boyfriend, if you want your your boss to say to you, like you’re doing such a good job, you gotta say that to you, I’m doing a good job here. If you want your mission president, to say, you are one of the most like dedicated missionaries, don’t wait for the mission president to say it, you just say that to you, instead of wanting everyone else to be happy, just want them to feel the way they’re feeling. And then also, I just wanted to put this little caveat in there for anyone who’s in a leadership position, whether you’re a parent, or a district leader, or a mission president, or any sort of like a leader in the ward, in your calling, instead of saying someone, something to someone, like, I’m so proud of you, like maybe they are now in the captain of the football team or something like that. Instead of saying, I’m so proud of you ask them. That’s cool. How do you feel? How does that feel to achieve that thing? So notice how we sort of take it away from us, like they’re trying to see what our reaction will be when they get the grade or achieve the thing. And we can start to say, how do you feel about getting those grades or we could say, Does that feel good to get those grades or to achieve that thing, or to have that baptism or whatever, we can start teaching now that people get to create their own experience for themselves, that them feeling good about something doesn’t have to be contingent on how you know, the leader or the mission president or the parent in their life feels about it. Okay, so I want to give a quick word of warning. If you are in people pleasing mode, please don’t judge yourself. For any of it. One of the hardest things that I see happen is like someone say, I’m a people pleaser. And I shouldn’t be.

37:21 Now we have two problems. First of all, we’re in people pleasing mode, which was kind of talked about some of the reasons that might not work or might not be useful. And now we’re in shame or guilt about just who we are not useful at all. It’s called layering emotion. So, listen, we’ve all been raised to people, please. It’s also part of our brain software. And none of us because of a sort of this tribal way that our brains work. None of us are ever going to get rid of people pleasing completely. All of us are always going to be concerned about how other how other people think and feel we just are, that’s part of the way that we’re made up, it’s part of our makeup. But one other trick you can try is just caring a little bit more about how you think and feel. Then the way someone else thinks and feels put not that we don’t care at all about what someone thinks and feels like that wouldn’t be okay either. Right? But just care and put a little bit more emphasis and weight on what you think and feel. So don’t judge yourself, it’s totally fine. And you can choose something else if you want to. You can choose a different way of showing up and you’re gonna go in and out of it all the time all of us do no problem. Just be intentional. And sometimes we might want to people please on purpose, totally fine, but just be aware of it and decide if you like what it’s creating for you. All right, last thing I want to talk to you about are the what is on the other side of being in this people pleasing mode. Okay. When we can sort of minimize the amount that we are in people pleasing mode, we live more authentically as ourselves. You give back people their experience, like boss is allowed to be upset if he wants to be upset instead of trying to manipulate it. You will start to get to know yourself better. You start to value your gifts and talents and want to share them with others. You will start to have a better relationship with other people because you won’t need them to validate you or make you feel like you have worth you just already will start to intrinsically know that you will start to trust yourself and allow others to have their opinion and it doesn’t mean that you’re doing it wrong. Like they get to think one way and I get to think one way, and we’re all amazing. And the other thing is you will draw other authentic people to you. When we’re sort of in people pleasing mode, we actually draw to us other people pleasers. When we’re authentic and real, we draw people to us that are authentic and real. And that is super fun. Yeah. Which brings me to the last thing, which is what’s on the other side of people pleasing, it’s just more fun when we’re not in that mode, okay. So go give this a try, give some of these strategies a try. These baby steps these practices, and I really hope that it helps you, everyone have the most amazing week, we will see you next time. Serving a mission for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints can present a unique set of challenges. And many of those challenges you might not even see coming. So you’re gonna want a unique set of solutions. It’s easier than you think to overcome worry and anxiety, serve the successful mission you’ve always dreamed up and navigate your post mission experience with confidence. That is why I created some amazing free goodies that I’m sharing in my show notes. Maybe you’ll want to grab the free training for preparing missionaries, my video course for RMS or maybe you and I should hop on a free strategy call. If you’re ready to take your preparedness to serve or your preparedness to come home to the next level. Then go grab one of those freebies. And in the meantime, no matter which part of the mission experience you are involved in, just know that Jenny, the LDS mission coach is thinking about you every single day.

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Preparing for, serving and coming home from an LDS Mission can present countless changes and transitions. I’ve seen these changes put missionaries at the mercy of their emotions and questioning their abilities. With the tools I teach, young adults empower themselves to navigate every moment of the mission experience with epic, unwavering confidence.

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