94. Do vs. Be: Easter Edition

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0:00 Hey, What is up everyone? It’s Jennie Dildine, the LDS mission coach and you are listening to the LDS mission Podcast, episode number 94. Do vs be Easter edition? Hey, I’m Jenny, the LDS mission coach. And whether you’re preparing to serve a mission, currently serving a returned missionary or a missionary mama like me, I created this podcast just for you. Are you searching for epic confidence? Ready to love yourself and to learn the how of doing hard things? Then let’s go. I will help you step powerfully into your potential and never question your purpose. Again. It’s time to embrace yourself. Embrace your mission, embrace your life, and embrace what’s next. Hey, everybody, welcome to the podcast. Thanks so much for hanging out with me today. I think I always start the podcast like that. But listen, it’s fun to hang out together. And I’m glad you’re here. One of the most fun things is that we are doing a giveaway in April. We did a little bit of a giveaway on my Instagram account last month. But to celebrate my birthday, which was April 1, we are doing a huge giveaway, where we’re giving away $50 amazon gift cards to a person that subscribes writes and reviews, my podcast for the entire month of April every week. We’re gonna give an Amazon gift card. And then at the very end of April to celebrate my birthday month and kick and like wrap it up with a bang. I am going to give away one free 10 session package, which I don’t know if you will ever hear of another coach doing this. But I decided that is what I want to do. I know there’s a lot of people that have wanted to work with me one on one, and I just want to work with you as well. So all you have to do to get entered into that drawing at the end of the month is go to iTunes to Apple podcasts. Yeah, I guess I should say Apple podcasts and subscribe, write a review and rate this podcast and then you will be entered. So I’m excited today to share with you the winner of the $50 amazon gift card if this is you, missionary moon. Thank you so much for your review. And I want to send you an Amazon gift card in your email. So either reach out to me on social media, Jennie dot the LDS mission, coach, send me a direct message or send me an email Jennie at Jennie dildine.com. Okay, so go find me if you are missionary moon, say, Hey, I’m missionary moon, and I won the Amazon gift card. Here, I’m going to read it to you guys, because it’s such a nice review. Thank you so much. It helps so much when you guys write these reviews, get the word out to more people about these tools. So she says missionary Moon says so helpful. This is so great and helpful, much needed for all these beautiful missionaries out there. They need these mental tools to help them through each day and each trial. missionary work is hard. Exclamation point. Thank you so much, Jenny. Thank you so much missionary Moon for writing this really nice. Review. I agree. missionary work is hard. There’s lots of ups and downs. And so I am glad that you are on this journey with me to help me help these missionaries. And yeah, so go ahead, reach out. You won a $50 amazon gift card that we’re going to email straight to your inbox. So if you guys want to get entered into the drawing, you know what to do Apple podcasts, rate review, follow the podcast and we are going to announce another winner next week. So on to what I want to talk to you about today, which is do versus B. And this is something I have been thinking about a lot lately, especially because I think I told you guys that I got called to be a Relief Society teacher. So I’m given certain general conference talks to teach in Relief Society. And this one has spurred a lot of thoughts about doing versus being and I’m going to share some of those thoughts with you today. And I actually taught this lesson probably a month ago but I wanted to save it for Easter. I thought it would be a really good thing to focus on for Easter. Also. Did you guys all enjoy conference. It was fun. What Isn’t it amazing talks, this one is actually from the last conference. So this would have been from October of 2022. And the talk is be perfected in him by Paul v. Johnson. And so, as we start kind of digging into this talk, I wanted us to maybe consider the relationship between doing and being. This has also been on my mind a lot. Because of the work I do with missionaries, I talked to a lot of missionaries, I talked to a lot of returned missionaries, who feel like they’re not doing enough that it’s, they’re never doing enough to have the spirit. They’re never doing enough to be obedient. They’re never doing enough to teach and to help other people. And so, it’s really caused me to contemplate, like, how do we know if we’re doing enough? Do we even need to do anything at all, maybe it’s enough just to be. And so the way I think about being is something we can observe within ourselves, versus doing, which can be observed, externally. So a lot of people can observe us doing things externally. But being is something different. It’s a way of being from the inside being I think of as internal change, it’s a change that happens inside of us, we change the way maybe we think about something or we change the way we feel about something versus doing would maybe be external change. So we observed maybe our companion doing something different, or a person that we’re teaching, we observed them doing something different, or we observe our boss doing something different. So internal change, versus external change, being from the inside versus doing on the outside. So through each of these kinds of examples from this talk, and these quotes I’m going to read, I want us to sort of consider this is Paul v. Johnson. When he’s talking about perfection, is he talking about being? Or is he talking about doing? And what is kind of we can kind of think about? What is the relationship between these two things. All right. So I don’t know if you guys remember this talk or not, but it was the one where he talked about his grandson’s bone marrow transplant. And how it became apparent that because of I don’t remember if it was cancer, for sure or what the disease was, but he needed his grandson needed to have a bone marrow transplant. And what I have found in this talk is that he uses this bone marrow transplant as an analogy for the Atoning Blood of Jesus Christ and what the role that that plays in our lives. Especially as it relates to being perfected. Okay, so I’m going to read some quotes from this talk. I’m going to read a couple scriptures from this talk, and I want us to think about it all within this framework of doing versus being. So he says successful donor transplant causes a very real physiological change. Amazingly, a doctor explained that if Aaron committed a crime, and live blood at the crime scene, the police could arrest his brother Maxwell, do you remember this? Because Maxwell had been found as a match and was going to donate his bone marrow. This is because Aaron’s blood would come from Maxwell’s transplanted cells and have Maxwell’s DNA. And this would be the case for the rest of his life. Aaron, being saved by his brother’s blood has spurred many thoughts about the Atoning Blood of Jesus Christ and the effect of His Atonement on us. And then he says, I would like to focus today on the permanent life giving change that occurs as we allow the Lord to work miracles in us.

9:30 And so I just loved thinking about it this way is that one of the kind of examples I thought of is sometimes how we talk about I don’t know if you’ve heard someone say like God’s fingerprints, you know, how we can see God’s working in our lives or his fingerprints in our lives. But how when we trust God, and when we rely on the atonement and and rely on his transforming blood atoning blood that It literally changes us the way that Maxwell’s DNA literally changed Aaron’s DNA. And I think that this can be true for ourselves as well with the Atoning Blood of Jesus Christ. So let me read you a little bit more. Aaron did not have the power in himself to overcome the disease, his body could not make the blood cells needed to sustain his life, no matter what he personally did, he could not heal his bone marrow. So I thought this was super, super interesting to consider in this analogy with the blood of Jesus Christ is, no matter what he did or didn’t do, he did not have the power to save himself, or to change himself. And I like thinking about it this way, is because sometimes I think we get caught into a trap of perfectionism, where we think there’s these certain steps in these certain things that we have to do and have to accomplish in order to change ourselves. But what it’s telling us here is that we can’t do that. We can’t change our insights. The only person that has the ability to do that has that life sustaining blood is Jesus Christ. There’s this scripture that goes along with his talk that he had mentioned, and it’s second Nephi 3121. And now behold, my beloved brethren, this is the way and there is none other way, nor name given under heaven, whereby man can be saved in the kingdom of God. And now behold, this is the doctrine of Christ. And the only and true doctrine of the Father and of the Son of the Holy Ghost, which is one God without and Amen. I just, this stuck out to me so much, I probably heard that Scripture as 100 times, but when we say there is no other name under heaven, I always thought of other people. Well, I can’t look to other people or sources, besides Jesus Christ. But for the first time I read it, like, oh, and even my name, can’t save me. There is no other way. Nor name, not even including mine. So I can’t save myself the same way that Aaron could not save himself. So my question is, is this doing? Or is this being is this change that happens, something we can observe from the outside, or something we can observe from the inside only. Okay. Second, little quote, I want to read from the talk. Although Aaron could not heal himself, in order for the transplant to work, he needed to be willing to do what the doctors had asked, even very difficult, challenging things. So I think we can think of this in the traditional sense. And actually, there was a lot of sisters in my ward that were like, yes, salvation is very hard work. We’ve got to work hard. We’ve got to work hard at it. And, and I agree with that, to some extent, but I also think of it in a more. Well, actually, I don’t know if I agree with that at all. I don’t think it has to be hard work. I think the hard work is actually just being able to trust. And I think that is the hard work. The hard work to me is being willing to submit to the plan, which is God’s plan. And it always included heartache and pain, it always included a little bit of anxiety. And it always included failure. And it always included frustration and anger and things that would go wrong. And so when I think of with this quote, Aaron needing to submit to what the doctors asked. That’s what I think of is I think of it in a bigger picture in this analogy that we have to submit the plan. Sometimes I think we’re like, Yeah, I’ll totally submit to God’s plan. All the good stuff, the rest, I’m not okay with. But we have to submit to what the plan always was, was that we would come to earth we would screw it all up and then the atonement would be there to change us in the end and sanctify all the places that we went wrong. All the places that we didn’t do it the best that we could, all the places that I You know, we fell short. And really, if I’m being honest, I don’t really believe that we can do it wrong or fall short. As long as we involve Christ in that in all of it and really have to trust him. It’s hard to have faith. It’s hard to believe. It’s hard to really trust and believe that Christ did what he said he did. The scripture that went with this is mosaic 27, and 25 through 26. And the LORD said unto me, Marvel not that all mankind, gay men and women, all nations, kindred tongues, and people must be born again. A born of God changed from their carnal and fallen state, to a state of righteousness, being redeemed of God becoming his sons and daughters, and thus they became new creatures. And unless they do this, they can no wise inherit the kingdom of God. This was so fun to me to think about the new creatures idea that because of the Atonement, all of the experiences that we have, whether from the outside we would see them as right or wrong, can change us from the inside. If we allow that atonement to kind of work within us, we can become new creatures. One of my favorite books is Adam Miller’s book is called the original grace. And he says, taken together, Christ and I make up a new creature, the old creature, the imperfect me ceases to exist and a glorious new creature, a perfect partnership takes its place, taken together as a single entity, the two of us, Christ and I are perfect. He says, I do not mean this, I do not mean this is absolutely crucial that we become perfect later on. I mean, that from the moment the partnership is formed in good faith, from the moment we have sincere faith in Christ, it’s clearly repent of our sins and receive baptism in the Holy Ghost. From this moment, the partnership is celestial. Isn’t that cool? So we have this idea that we have to take all the steps to be perfect. But when we partner with Christ, when we believe in Him, when we believe in His Atonement, and what he’s done for us, we become perfected, even in that moment, not later on. So again, my question, all for consideration is, is becoming a new creature doing? Or is it more about being is becoming a creature, something we observe from the outside? Or is becoming a new creature, something that we observe on the inside, for ourselves? Now, one of the reasons I think this is so important to consider, and especially on the mission, and especially after the mission is, there’s a lot of comparison that goes on. I was talking to a missionary just recently who said that one of the sisters in the mission had just decided that to be super consecrated, that she was not going to make contact with her family anymore, for the rest of her mission. And from the outside, that maybe is something we would observe as like, Oh, that’s pretty awesome. But when we really go inside, is that from a place of like, real change, and transformation, is that really from a place of consecration and love? I mean, I am not in a place to judge at all, and it might be, but what I think tends to happen is we tend to observe the doing of other people, instead of going inside, and deciding who we want to be. And being is so much more powerful than doing and of course, the Bing is going to drive our action. But we’ve got to start there first with Bing. And, again, please don’t look to other people and what they’re doing, what the other missionaries are doing or what the other RMS are doing. Don’t look to them. Look inside. Who are you wanting to be? Okay. So let me read a little bit more for you. Elma, he talks about ALMA,

19:26 the scripture of the people in Zarahemla. And he says, Alma reminded the people of Zarahemla of the previous generation that had been converted. Speaking of, of his father, Alma explained that according to his faith, there was a mighty change right in his heart, and then he asked, Have you experienced this mighty change in your heart? It wasn’t the people who changed their hearts. The Lord performed the actual change. Alma was very clear about this, as he said, Behold, he changed their hearts. So the Lord perform the change. They didn’t have like those people, they didn’t have anything to do with it. The Lord does the changing because of his power because of His Atonement, he can change us from the inside out. And the scripture that he shared with this was Alma 513. And behold, he preached the word unto your fathers, and a mighty change was also wrought in their hearts, and they humbled themselves, and put their trust in the true and living God. And behold, they were faithful until the end, therefore, they were saved. So what I noticed about this scripture, was the words humbled, trust and faithful. Are these things that people can observe you doing on the outside? Or is this a way of being, being humble, trusting and being full of faith? Maybe. I mean, I’m sure some of you would argue yes, that this is something we could observe on the outside. But this internal change is something that we can’t do on our own. This internal transformation, transformation, the being is something that the Lord does, and will know that we’re on the way to that change is one more fill of humility, trust and faith. Right? And, and those aren’t things that people can observe you doing those emotions, those are things that you feel on the inside. Okay, here’s a little bit more from the talk. We may have a tendency to think that we have to be perfect ourselves. But that is not possible. He says, following every suggestion and every self help book in the world, and like, parentheses is what I think doing. will not bring it about. There is only one way and one name whereby perfection comes. I love that he’s just, this is not possible. You can’t perfect yourself. We don’t need to assume that we need to do what only the Savior can do.

22:41 Okay, let me read a little bit more to you. With medical treatments like Aaron’s, there is always some uncertainty of the outcome. In fact, Aaron needed a second transplant when the first one had complications. Thankfully, with a spiritual change of heart, we don’t have to wonder if it will happen when we live according to His will, relying wholly upon the merits of Him who is mighty to save. I love this so much. There is a 100% guarantee of being cleansed by the Savior’s blood, and eventually being perfected at him. He is the God of truth, and cannot lie. Isn’t that so good? I recently been talking to one missionary who kind of is questioning her doing a lot. Like if I did this, does that make me worthy of the Spirit? If I did this, does that make me worthy of the Spirit? If I do this, then maybe I’m not worthy of the Spirit. And I think that in some cases, yeah. Some of the things if we went to an extreme case, maybe don’t make us worthy of the Spirit. But I think by and large, people who are striving, who are trusting Jesus Christ, who are letting him change them, who are humble, and willing to submit. They are just fine being. Like, I think many of us need to let go of the doing, trying to prove ourselves and trying to perfect ourselves and just start being just start being humble and just start being faith, full of faith. Just start believing that you are worthy, that you are valuable, and that you are whole. This says there’s 100% guarantee of being cleansed by the Savior split. I was talking to another missionary who just said, you know, because we were kind of talking about this and she said, you know, that is something I need to work on. And I said No listen That’s the point. You don’t need to work on anything you just need to be. That’s what I learned from this from this talk is, we can’t do it, it’s not even possible for us to do it. Let me read you a little bit more from this. This talk. Can you imagine how overwhelming it would have been for our young grandson Aaron, to assume he had to understand and perform all the medical procedures associated with his transplant, we should not assume we need to do what only the Savior can do in the miraculous process of our perfection. The one of the things I’ve liked a lot lately is in the guide to the Scriptures where it talks about being perfect. What it says is being perfect means complete, whole, and fully developed. It says true followers of Christ may become perfect through His grace and atonement. So when I was teaching this lesson, I was like, I think we sometimes think of perfection as sort of like a ladder. So picture me drawing like a bunch of lines on the board. Like, like, we’re down here, Christ and His Atonement and perfection is up here. And we have to go up this ladder, and then sometimes we fall down and then go up this ladder. And then sometimes we fall down. And I said, That’s not what I learned from this talk. What I learned from this talk is that that transformation happens from the inside. And it’s happening all the time. As long as we’re humble, and trusting and full of faith, that that perfection is happening as we go along. That we don’t need to do anything. And so next to it, I was like, I don’t think this is how it works. This is how I think it works. And I drew two stick figures me I was like, This is me. And this is Jesus. And we’re holding hands. And then I put a big heart around both of us. I said, this is how I think it works. That whatever we’re going through, because being a human, you guys is hard. It is not easy stuff. And being on a mission is not easy stuff. Being a return missionary is not easy stuff. I’m working with a couple of missionaries right now that are just really struggling. A couple return missionaries, I’m sorry, who are really having a hard time. And so sending all of you so much love if you’re listening. But the Savior is not at the top of waiting for us to get to him. He is with us every step of the way. Giving us that peace giving us that love giving us that compassion. What he did, because Christ did we don’t have to do because of Christ doing we can just be I love this scripture and Doctrine and Covenants where it says, listen to the voice of Jesus Christ, the Redeemer the great I AM, whose arm of Mercy hath atone for your sins. I love that it says I am because he doesn’t describe himself as the great doer or the great feeler or the great thinker. He just says I am the great I AM. He says I am and that is being it’s okay for you to just be. That’s the miracle. That’s the miracle of Easter is that because Christ did what he did. We can just be and trust in Him and partner with him and let him have our back. Moroni 1032 says as Moroni concluded his record he taught yay come into Christ and be perfected in him. And if he shall deny yourself of all and godliness and love God, I’ve started substituting trust God a lot of times with love. So love or trust God with all your mind and strength, then is his grace sufficient for you? That his but that by His grace he may be perfect in Christ inside that little heart you when Jesus together. He is perfecting us all of the time. And sanctifying all of our being for good. So if I didn’t need any more As I was preparing this lesson, I was like, even if I didn’t need any more evidence of doing versus being, I was like, looked again at the title of the talk, which is be perfected in him. The last testimony of Paul v. Johnson is His grace is sufficient for me. His grace is sufficient for you. And so do we believe this Easter, maybe give yourself a gift of just being give yourself the gift of trusting in the great I AM. Hosea 16 eight says but there is a resurrection therefore the grave hath no victory and the sting of deaths his swallowed up in Christ this is from elder George clean combat clean been get no matter what your current status the very moment you choose honest, joyful and daily repentance by striving to simply be your very best. The Savior’s Atonement envelops and follows you. As it were, wherever you go we don’t have to do perfection. With Christ, we can just be that is the miracle of Easter. Because of what Christ did, we can be we can be perfected in him and with him. All right, you guys. I hope you have the most amazing Easter. I love you guys and I just sending you so much love if you’re on your mission listening to this if you’re a returned missionary listening to this, if you’re preparing to go you in SPIRE me and I’m not just saying that I want to send you so much love, have the most amazing week Happy Easter, we will see you next time.

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